Staying In Touch Post Grad

Hello, World.

With graduation a little more than a month behind me, and my move to Virginia about a month ahead of me, I keep thinking about moving from so many people who have grown to be like family. Some of my close friends are going to be returning to SMC to continue their undergrad years, and others will be entering the workforce or beginning a graduate program. It’s hard to fully wrap my head around that fact. I’ll definitely miss having the convenience of living on the same campus as most of my really good friends. However, I’m ready to get to my new stage, and begin the next chapter of my life. I’ve been trying to be more intentional in my ability to stay in contact with people. Though it is superficially easy to stay in touch–Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, Facebook, etc.- it’s difficult to really engage in meaningful ways with friends that don’t live close. Today, I want to share my top tips for staying in touch when you don’t live in the same place as someone, but want to stay close with! Also, as a general aside, true friends don’t need to talk everyday to stay close. True friends don’t need inseparable contact to stay close to each other. It should be like practically no time is spent apart when you’re finally in the same place.

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  1. Schedule FaceTime Coffee Dates | With virtual “dates” or meetups so easy, I think scheduling time to talk like you would if you were in the same place is important. Try to treat the friendship like there is no distance, and that you still have time for each other. Make a point to have a coffee date that is standing, whether it’s weekly, bi weekly, bi monthly, or monthly. It’s important to be able to catch up, “hangout,” and see each other!
  2. Group Text Updates | When something big happens, send it in a group text.While it’s annoying to have a phone constantly buzzing because of group texts, but it’s also cool to be able to just say, “hey this is what I’ve been up to. How are you all?” See what everyone’s up to, have a quick update. I tell my friends everything when I live near them, there’s no reason it should change when I don’t!
  3. Hand Write a Quick Note | Send along some thoughts in your own handwriting. It’ll show you care, and also is a bit more meaningful than an email or text.
  4. Be Understanding, and Reach Out | Not everyone has time to talk everyday. Chances are you won’t even have time to talk everyday. However, It’s important to remember that people get busy. If you don’t talk for a while, know that it’s non one’s fault, and just try to catch up and be understanding!

How do you stay in touch with friends that live far away?

Truly,
Callie leigh

Keep In Touch.

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Hello, World.

As colleges end their semesters, and summer begins, its important to make sure you are maintaining friendships with your “college friends.” As I was walking across campus the other day, I heard some students talking about how they were sad that summer was coming because, unlike in high school, everyone would be heading off in different directions. College is different than high school because for one, you haven’t known your friends for most of your life, and you also probably don’t live super close to them when you’re in your hometown. I live roughly three hours from my college friends, and states away from some. It’s a weird concept, and it’s hard to adjust to the first summer after college.

I feel like keeping in touch with people is something I’ve always struggled with to an extent. Unless I’m dating you or you’re family, I totally suck at texting frequently. I’ve gotten better since being in college because, well, you have to get better at maintaining communication if you want to have friends when you return in the fall. One of my friends and I always talk about how college friendships are different because they tend to develop much faster than normal friendships, and your friends in college become your family away from home. Therefore, it is important to keep in touch over summer when people are busy with jobs, internships, summer classes, family plans, travel, etc. Over the past year (roughly), I’ve learned some good ways to stay in touch with college friends.

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Group texting // While some people may hate group texts, I think they work well because you can text everyone little summer stories, and catch up with everyone quickly. It also is fun because it helps keep your friend group dynamic going throughout the summer. Also, you’ll have some great inside jokes form that can carry into the school year.

Virtual Coffee Dates // In an age where FaceTime and Skype are common forms of communication, set a time with your friend to have coffee over the interwebs. Set a time, get the coffee you want, and catch up as you would if no distance was separating you!

Call When You Need To // Be honest about how your summer is going. I had a terrible summer last year, but I kept trying to convince myself it wasn’t really that bad, and I continually told people everything was great when it wasn’t. Let’s just say when I got back to school, and some things had gone south, it was obvious I didn’t have the summer it seemed, and that was hard to face.

Handwritten Letters or Postcards // Going on an awesome trip? Send your friends a postcard. Not going anywhere cool? Write your friends a letter about how summer is going, random thoughts you had, or something cute you made for them. Handwritten letters are dying, but this is definitely something that’ll show your friends that you’re thinking about them, that you care, and will be a memento for them to cherish forever!

How do you keep in touch with the people you love but are far away?

Truly,
Callie Leigh