Saying No to Self-Doubt

Hello, World.

Today I want to share a post about self-doubt. But rather than lament that 90%, probably more, of the population experiences self-doubt regularly, I think it’s important to figure out ways to close the door on self-doubt. Figure out how to say, “no thank you!” or “ain’t nobody got time for that,” to self doubt! We all experience moments where we question our ability, and I think a lot of it has to do with feeling uncertain about the future. It’s not necessarily that we can’t do something, we just wonder if we’re doing the right thing.

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I have four main ways I combat self-doubt that I usually turn to when I’m starting to question myself, and even in the worst moments, at least one of my methods calms me.

  1. Meditate. Meditation is underrated. I think even if this doesn’t immediately wipe away uncertainty, it at least calms the mind, and you can use meditation to focus on the good things in your life, what your strengths are, and even meditate on why you’re feeling insecure.
  2. Call in the Big Guns (support system, whoever is on the list.) I usually go Mom-Dad-Sister, depending on why I need to call. Sometimes I go Dad first, if it’s a school related stress, and Mom first if it’s a social thing. If I really need to break down, Mom is always first. If none of them are available or I’m still feeling meh, I text my two college friends, who I have a group chat with. They’re always quick to give a pep talk and ground me.
  3. Take a Walk. This could also be a trip to the gym, but I know some days when I’m feeling extra down and I don’t have time to hit the gym, a walk downtown or across campus will calm me down. Fresh air is good for the soul, especially when you aren’t sure you’re in the right place doing the right thing. In those moments, get some fresh air, calm yourself, and remember why you started.
  4. Write it out. Sometimes I will journal when I need to just let out whatever is holding me back. I use a pen, and literally write away the self-doubt. The self-doubt goes onto a piece of paper, and then into the trash (recycling bin). Other days I will write “you are good enough,” or “build your empire,” on a little post it and put it in front of me on my desk or in my planner. That way, even when I’m questioning myself, I’m also encouraging myself!

While each of these steps may seem like they’re not actually that helpful, I can assure you, they are more helpful than you would think. Sometimes calling on someone is best, other times spending a little time on your mental health is best. Other times, getting outside and gaining perspective is needed. And other times, you just have to make self-doubt a tangible item that can be discarded! Whatever you need, each of these offers something a bit different in combating self-doubt!

What’s your favorite way to get rid of self-doubt?

Truly,
Callie leigh

Fitness Goals 2017

Hello, World.

Every year I say I’m going to get fit. I’m going to work out regularly, and eat well, and do whatever the new trend is (green smoothie, anyone?). And I don’t. However, law school stress has pushed me into the realm of liking to work out. I look forward to that hour of getting active, and not worrying about anything but what song is playing on my playlist. So, I wanted to share my fitness goals, now that they’ve kind of already started because I don’t like to share something I’m unlikely to follow through on.

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Hit the Gym 3 times a week.

Trying to find a groove was tricky, but I tired to make it to the gym a few times a week. However, now that I’m more familiar with my schedule this semester, I’m going to do the MWF routine. It seems to be the best option, and I feel like it’ll keep me healthy and positive during the week!

DRINK MORE WATER. 

I’m really kind of terrible about drinking enough water. I’d much rather have some tea or a chai latte. But now that I’m working out, I know I need to be a lot more conscious of drinking enough water, and making sure my body is getting the nourishment it needs.

Say no to sugar (except once a week).

I have a huge sweet tooth. I love sugar, and I crave it as soon as my stress level rises. So, rather than reach for a chocolate bar, I’m training myself to drink a glass of water or eat something with natural sugar (fruit). Cutting sugar is difficult, but over the last few years, I’ve upped my sugar intake, and noticed a huge change in my energy and my body.

Don’t get discouraged when I don’t see immediate results.

I’m putting myself first this year. I’ve always struggle with body-image issues, and I think that working out because I want to is most important. Not because I want to lose weight or something external. I want to feel good and confident. If I lose weight, it’ll be a bonus, but right now I just want to encourage myself to take control of the insecurities I have. I want to work out because it makes me feel good. I usually get annoyed I’m not losing five pounds every gym visit. Now, I just look forward to going to the gym, not what my thighs will look like after.

What are your fitness goals for 2017?

Truly,

Callie leigh