Dream Dressing Room with Arhaus

Hello, World.

As much as I love makeup and fashion, sometimes in the midst of studying law and trying to have a life, it’s hard to feel inspired when getting ready in the morning. Sometimes I think about what I want my future home to be like (it includes an in-home library complete with one of those rotating ladders). Recently, I’ve been thinking it’d be great to have a really nice space for organizing my clothes and accessories. I want a room that’s the perfect blend of comfort and glam that makes me excited about getting ready for work each morning or for evening functions. I mean, who can really resist a little glam room?

Even now, having roommates, whenever we get ready for a function (law prom, fall formal or a night out), my friends and I hangout in each other’s rooms, asking if our dresses look okay, whether the lipstick we want to want to wear is too much, or laughing over champagne about how complicated getting ready can be! Therefore, when I think of the perfect dressing room, I think of a space where my friends can hangout with me while I get ready, laughing and listening to a great playlist.

I recently discovered Arhaus, a company that offers amazing pieces for your home that are the perfect blend of trendy, classic, and comfortable. A major plus? They work hard to be sustainable, using recycled natural resources. One of the things I love about Arhaus is the mixture of unexpected elements. Recycled wooden tables blend perfectly with velvety tufted chairs that look like something from a Jane Austen novel.

Today I’m sharing my mood board of what I would include in my perfect, dream dressing room! This post features Arhaus pieces that I think would make a dressing room comfortable and practical. Now, I definitely have a fairly large dressing room in mind in planning my perfect room. I’m picturing this room as a full room closet. I mean, if you’re going to dream up the perfect room why not dream extra big? Arhaus Paint in Wind (4).png

1 – Arhaus Paint in Wind | 2 – Leyland 22 Light Chandelier | 3 – Acadia Tray | 4 – Small 2 Drawer Bombay Chest | 5 – Fiona Cushion 40″ Upholstered Tufted Chair | 6 – Malou Basket | 7 – Evelyn Mirror | 8 – Petrified Accent Table | 9 – Lena 40″ Upholstered Chair | 10 – Coastal Blue Paisley Square Pillow | 11 – Nori Rug | 12 – Fulton 26″ Upholstered Ottoman 

I love gray hues and bright spaces, so I would begin my dream dressing room with a light gray paint. Gray is a little softer than white and I think it grounds a space a bit without feeling heavy. If you’re going to be spending time in a space with the purpose of trying on clothes and getting all glammed up, I think a great light fixture is a must have! This Arhaus chandelier has an old-world feel and I love the gold finish. I personally believe gold makes most thinks look even more luxurious. Check out even more lighting options here.

I have a lot of jewelry and accessories, but sometimes its hard to keep track of it all. How do you display jewelry without it feeling like clutter? Well, on my favorite display methods if by having a tray on top of your dresser for your favorite small pieces. I would have a gold tray in my dressing room that has some fresh blooms (I adore fresh flowers in the house), and my favorite perfume and lipstick. I’m also obsessed with turning vintage teacup saucers into displays. So, I would get a cute saucer, and use it as a catch-all for my favorite pieces (earrings, necklaces, bracelets, watch).

No dressing room is complete without clothing, so of course I’d have a chest! I love the French country vibes that this Arhaus chest gives me. White furniture is my favorite, but I love the small scallop detailing of this chest. While traditional dressers and chests are great, I like slightly more creative storage methods. Therefore, I’d add the Arhaus basket to house hats or blankets or even scarves (if they’re folded and stacked).

A full length mirror is essential when getting ready. You never know how an outfit looks all together until you see it in a mirror. The Arhaus mirror has a great stand that makes it the perfect finish for the corner of my room.

As I discussed, I enjoy having friends hangout while we’re getting ready for events, so I wanted to incorporate a seating area in the room. While couches are great, I think chairs are better. When I saw the pink velvet chair, I squealed. This piece is exactly the kind of chair I would love to have in my house someday. When I saw the pattern of the Lena chair, I knew it would complement the pink chair perfectly. I like the feel of having statement chairs and then toning them down with rich, neutral accents. A neutral accent that drew my attention is the petrified wood table, which is small enough to sit between the chairs, but big enough for morning coffee or evening wine glasses. I also knew I wanted a foot stool in the room, in case my guests or I wanted to lounge a little more. The Fulton ottoman is perfect because it mixes clean whites with deep wood tones.

To bring in some blue from the Lena chair, I think the paisley accent pillow is perfect to sit on the Fiona chair. I also imagine my space to have hardwood floors, so the Nori Rug would add texture and pattern to the room! I adore that the rug has an already worn feel, which would go so great with the other pieces in the room. I prefer my spaces to felt lived in!

I think all of the pieces discussed above would create a beautiful dream dressing room! It’d be the glam rooms of glam rooms! I feel inspired just looking at this virtual mood board! While I was picking my items, my dad leaned over and asked what I was doing. I explained, and he asked if there is a store nearby. There is a room in my parent’s house we’ve been unhappy with for a little while, and I’m confident they can find some great pieces at Arhaus!

What are your dream dressing room must haves?

Truly,
Callie leigh

Being a Maid of Honor for Family

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With wedding season upon us, I thought it might be interesting to write about being a maid of honor (or bridesmaid) for family! I personally feel holding this role for family is different than doing it for a friend. I was my sister’s maid of honor when she got married in 2015, and it was a very unique experience. I was in fall of my senior year of college 3 hours from home, and let’s just say… it was a busy time. I wanted desperately to “do a good job,” but also was limited because of school and work as an RA. However, the day of the wedding went off without a hitch, and was an absolutely perfect celebration of one of the better loves I’ve seen in real life.

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I have four tips that I think are valuable to making sure you have a successful run as maid of honor or a bridesmaid for family!

  1. Be present. | As I briefly mentioned earlier, I was really nervous when my sister told me her wedding date and asked me to be her maid of honor. Of course I wanted to be there and hold this role. Hell, I’d been excited about it my whole life. But I was really overwhelmed by my own stuff, and I was having trouble remembering that I needed to just be present in the moments leading up to the day. When we met photographers or florists, I tried my best to tune out my own stress, and just focus on my sister.
  2. Let them be mad at you. | Weddings are stressful, and people tend to get mad at people they love most when under stress. So, there’s a very good chance it won’t all be rainbows and smiles leading up to the wedding. But, it’s your job to smile, and allow the bride to be angry or upset or emotional (within reason). I will say that you only need to deal with the bride’s attitude. If other people are being rude, you don’t need to keep a smile up if that’s not you.
  3. Stay positive. | Again, weddings are stressful. So, while everyone freaks out, just stay positive. The day of my sister’s wedding, her groom tore his pants (you know, the ones he was going to get married in) right down the butt. Like imagine a huge, gaping hole where the seem on the butt is supposed to be. Everyone was in pure panic, but you gotta stay positive, and try to see the good or the humor in the crazy situations that will undoubtedly arise.
  4. Remember that this is, likely, one of the biggest days of their life, and they chose you to stand next to (or near) them. At the end of the day, there is a lot of crazy in weddings. There is family drama, weird intricacies that I didn’t know existed, and a LOT of detail. But, in all the chaos there is a moment of calm. It may happen as you’re chowing down on the dinner, or as your walking up to the mic to give your speech, or as the happy couple is heading out the door. In that moment, whenever it comes, you’ll realize that the bride chose to have you by their side for this one day, a day that, quite seriously, opens a new door or begins a new chapter of their life. You get to be there for the transition, and you get to see it happen. That’s a special moment. So, enjoy it!

I will forever cherish my sister’s wedding day. It was absolutely stunning and it felt so special. It was also one of the only weddings I’ve been to as an adult, so I think it felt right that my sister was getting married… and beginning this new life with the perfect guy for her. Being a maid of honor is such an, dare I say, honor. So, remember to be honored!

Truly,

Callie leigh

How to be Single: Why it’s important

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Hello, World.

I recently watched How To Be Single for the first time, and was cracking up through the whole movie. I totally loved it: loved the message, the cast, the whole thing. While the film is meant to be a comedic look at the different ways people are single, and how they handle the status, I think that the message of the film is actually really important. Sure, watching Rebel Wilson make vulgar comments about men or show up late 3+ hours to work is funny, but I think the storyline I most enjoyed was Dakota Johnson’s, which shows a college graduate terminate a long term relationship so she can figure out “what she’s like on her own.” Frankly, being alone is something most people struggle with.

A lot of people see others coupling off, and feel like maybe it’s time to settle down. And we won’t even go into the subtle societal comments that imply we’re living in a Jane Austen novel… We are conditioned to believe that being with someone is best. However, I’m pretty happy being single, and I have a ton of friends who are also happy being single. I dated someone my freshman year of college, and I’m so glad it didn’t work out because the next three years were REALLY transformative for me, and I don’t think they would have been so important had I still been dating someone. I think being comfortable alone is important, but what I think is more important is using the time alone to really figure out who you are as an individual. Sure, one day you can be part of a couple, but you need to know what you’re bringing to the table, what you’re offering, and how the person you’re dating can compliment the person you are.

Not to hate on people who date a lot or switch from long term relationship to long term relationship, but I sometimes wonder if the people who do this know who they are. It’s hard to imagine that those relationships haven’t sort of defined who the person is. From the outside, it appears that the growing and maturing that happens in early adulthood is happening in relation to someone else. This is probably not true for everyone, and I don’t mean for it to sound like a standard. However, I do think it is fundamentally important for people to know who they are. Here’s the thing: if you don’t know who you are and what you’re looking for and what you deserve, how can anyone appreciate who you are when even you don’t know who that is. Relating this to How To Be Single, [NOTE: this may contain a spoiler, so avert your eyes if you don’t want a small plot point ruined], Dakota Johnson’s character spends much of her time that she’s supposed to be “finding herself” hooking up with or trying to fall for a new guy. The irony, of course, is that her idea of finding herself is finding another male counterpart. It’s soon revealed this is, quite obviously, the wrong way to go about finding yourself.

I think the most important part of being comfortable alone is recognizing you don’t have to settle. Now, naturally, one of the concerns about people being too comfortable alone is that they won’t ever settle down, but I think this is unreasonable as far as arguments go. Yes, people can be too comfortable being alone, but the thing is, if someone really wants to be part of your life, you will accommodate them because it’ll be too good to pass up. While you may be stuck in your ways, and stubborn about the proper way to put toilet paper on the dispenser, if you know the fit is right, you might ease up on the little things. However, you still remain steadfast in the things that make you you: belief systems, what treatment you will allow, your career goals, etc. I think there is a reason a large percentage of people say they found their significant other, spouse, etc. when they weren’t really looking. So, if you’re single, go out there and be yourself, and do your thing, and the love stuff will come when it does. If you’re in a relationship or married or whatever, make sure you know who you are, and what you, as an individual, are bringing to your relationship.

Now, to close, I will say if you haven’t seen How To Be Single, I suggest renting it, making some popcorn, pouring a glass of wine, and watching it ASAP.

Truly,
Callie leigh

Gilmore Girls Revival Preparation

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I’m SO excited for the Gilmore Girls revival. I can hardly express how truly ecstatic I am. I’m trying to have too many expectations, but I have a feeling it’ll be amazing. In light of the premiere, I wanted to share some essentials for getting the full Gilmore experience while watching the episodes!

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Lorelai and Rory ALWAYS order Chinese take out, so for dinner, get some Chinese food from your local spot.

Redvines are the junk food of choice (Amy Sherman Palladino shared this is her junk food go-to). I love Redvines, even though they are so bad for me.

Pop-tarts are a Gilmore essential. They almost always have pop-tarts on Friday nights.

I also recommend getting pizza for good measure. If you’re having a viewing party, Chinese AND pizza are musts!

The coffees should be self-explanatory if you’re a fan of the show. If you’re not, Gilmore Girls drink more coffee than water. Coffee is a must for a complete viewing experience.

Popcorn is an essential for any viewing of any show! Add some M&Ms or caramel or butter, and you can spice up your popcorn bowl.

Finally, for the super fans out there, tissues will be necessary. Whether we cry happy tears or sad tears, I have a feeling the revival will be an emotional experience.

I will likely do a review of the revival epsiodes (but not for a while because I don’t want to give spoilers). Also, spoilers will be clearly marked!

Truly,
Callie leigh

A Book I’m Picking Up

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Lauren Graham is releasing a new book in November! Who’s excited? I sure am! I already pre-ordered it, and I can’t wait for it to arrive. I plan to take it on my plane ride home to CA in December.Seeing that it comes out right near my first set of law school finals, I probably won’t get to it until Christmas break, but alas, I’m excited to read it. You can check out what it’s all about by clicking here!

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Let me know if you’re as excited as I am to get your hands on this gem.

Truly,
Callie leigh

Faking Confidence Until You Have It

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Sometimes it’s hard to feel confident. Being in new environments can really affect people’s confidence and ability to feel secure. I think law school is one of those places that makes people feel unsure about a lot of things. Being in an environment with competitive people, and a lot of people who were the tops of their college classes, or who have done a lot of really great things in their time off, makes you feel inadequate at times. I think a lot of people think I’m confident, or at least I’ve had a good amount of people tell me I am, but to be honest 90% of my confidence is forced. I have insecurities, just like everyone has insecurities. I over analyze things, I get my feelings hurt but small things, and I try really hard to keep my head up, even when I am completely unsure and insecure about my surroundings. I think it’s hard to feel confident when you are unsure about aspects of your life. Life is a cycle. A few months ago, I was a senior in college, feeling like I could do anything because I had multiple leadership positions, was one of the “oldest” people on campus, and knew a ton about how navigate the scene easily. Now, I feel like I’m at the bottom again (because I am). We also have to work our way up to get to the next step, and then once we get there, we downgrade to be at the bottom again before working our way up to something else.

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It’s hard, you know, walking around law school feeling like maybe you aren’t as qualified or as smart as the guy or girl constantly raising their hand and good points in class. Or the person who got chosen for the position you desperately wanted. When I chose William and Mary, something that I desperately wanted to be involved in was honor council, and I applied, and got an interview. And then I didn’t get the position. I was crushed. I cried, I called my mom, and I felt like a child. But then I talked to my dad, and I realized that this gave me opportunity to explore other things that I may be more interested in. I had the chance to reevaluate, and I had the chance to realize maybe during this climb I wanted to focus on having fun with friends, excelling in classes, and making personal connections that I didn’t really make my first year of college. But again, not getting a position I wanted so badly was crushing, and scary, and made me question myself. Confidence is not easy, especially when you feel like you just took a major hit to the gut. There have been a few things that haven’t panned out exactly as I imagine them, and while its a bit shaking, it gives the opportunity to really evaluate what I want and move on. Screen Shot 2016-10-01 at 5.28.05 PM.png

We have to fake it until we make it, and sometimes faking confidence can lead to actual confidence. I think part of faking confidence is focusing on things you have the power to improve. If you’ve always wanted get in a better work out routine, take time to do it. If you’ve always wanted to do something, take a moment to do it. When we can improve the areas of our life we feel need a little attention, it makes us feel more confident because we’re accomplishing something, even if its not directly related to the aspects of our lives that are making us uncomfortable. So, take a little time to figure out what you want, and go for it. And even if you feel uncertain, keep your chin up!

Truly,
Callie leigh

My Allergy to Life: A Food-Lover’s Testimony

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The time has come to have a serious discussion about the fact that I am allergic to life. Yes, while you get to enjoy focaccia bread, cheese pizza, and normal lattes, I have to order gluten-free, dairy-free everything. The joys of eating a delicious meal are rarely experienced by yours truly. Last March I took a blood test that indicates what does not react well with your body. Initially, I took it because I was beginning to believe I was lactose intolerant, but wasn’t sure. Now, something you should understand about this test is that it is not the test where the put a bunch of things on your back, and it swells and all that stuff. This test simply indicates what reacts negatively to your body within a 24-hour period after consumption. So, my results? I am allergic to everything I used to eat. I am allergic to gluten, yeast, asparagus, dairy, malt, oregano, lemon, orange, olives, grapes, salmon, tuna, and oats. The test, though, gives you stars based on severity of allergy. Gluten and Dairy each has the maximum amount of stars, with the other foods having one or two stars.
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(I am a huge desert person, but as most you probably realize, 90% of good deserts contain either gluten or dairy!)
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For the first few months following receiving my test results, I had a difficult time finding out what to eat. Luckily I live in the Bay Area, so there are a lot of gluten free options (way more than in Chico, where gluten-free is some kind of foreign term). Still, it was hard to be in college, with a meal plan, and finding things to eat. The dining hall, for example, had almost nothing that was both gluten-free and dairy-free. I felt like I was inadvertently anorexic because finding things I could actually eat was so hard, and I was always busy with classes and meetings and a social life. Also, something else that really stressed me out was people’s general lack of understanding. A lot of people, when I order gluten-free or dairy-free, assume I’m on some kind of diet, and while I am restricted in what I can eat, it isn’t necessarily a choice. Cutting out all the things that don’t react well with my body makes it so I actually feel good all the time. As someone who struggled with feeling groggy, uneasy, tired, and nervous I was going to feel sick when out to dinner with friends, my new diet is something I appreciate.
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One of the perks of being gluten free dairy free? I lost twenty pounds. As someone who has always struggled with losing weight, and always felt too big, the weight loss was something that made the transition in diet easier. But again: I am not choosing this diet because I want to lose weigh. I’m choosing it because it makes me feel better, and I feel much more confident 20 pounds lighter. I have been insecure about my weight since about seventh grade, when I started gaining weight and when I moved schools and was a good foot taller than most people. I felt like a giant in every way imaginable, and I never felt good because I ate things that didn’t sit well with me. If only I had known about my allergies then, I wouldn’t feel so bloated all the time. One of the major effects of gluten is bloating, which is one of the reasons people who do choose to diet cut gluten out of their daily intake. I really like being gluten free, dairy free, but sometimes it’s difficult. Like when I go to coffee with a friend and the barista accidentally makes my latte with regular milk instead of soy. Or when I’m out with friends and everyone wants Italian, but the only Italian place close to us doesn’t have gluten free options and I feel famished and really don’t want to just get salad. Or when, perhaps more relevant, when it’s Thanksgiving and my favorite side dishes are green bean casserole and stuffing. Those dishes are definitely NOT gluten free dairy free. But they can be, and most people don’t realize that. So, in the next few weeks I would like to share some recipes that are holiday appropriate that are both gluten free and dairy free. I know that gluten intolerance is being found in more and more people, so it’s nice to discover gluten free food that actually tastes great too. Also, I have biology major as a friend, and he said that most people develop acute lactose intolerance as they age because our bodies naturally have a harder time breaking down lactose as we age. So, maybe going dairy free sometimes wouldn’t be such a bad thing for most people (and cutting down on dairy intake heightens weight loss if you’re interested in that). Anyway, I wanted to share my experience with finding out I needed to completely alter my daily eating, and offer a pre-cursor for all the gluten free dairy free recipes coming you way.

Truly,

Callie Leigh

Note: The food pictures are from my Pinterest, and are not all gluten-free dairy-free, but are meals or deserts that i would like to transform into diet-acceptable foods for myself. The photos of me are a little grainy, but my computer crashed last year so I lost a lot of my good before pictures!