Saying No to Self-Doubt

Hello, World.

Today I want to share a post about self-doubt. But rather than lament that 90%, probably more, of the population experiences self-doubt regularly, I think it’s important to figure out ways to close the door on self-doubt. Figure out how to say, “no thank you!” or “ain’t nobody got time for that,” to self doubt! We all experience moments where we question our ability, and I think a lot of it has to do with feeling uncertain about the future. It’s not necessarily that we can’t do something, we just wonder if we’re doing the right thing.

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I have four main ways I combat self-doubt that I usually turn to when I’m starting to question myself, and even in the worst moments, at least one of my methods calms me.

  1. Meditate. Meditation is underrated. I think even if this doesn’t immediately wipe away uncertainty, it at least calms the mind, and you can use meditation to focus on the good things in your life, what your strengths are, and even meditate on why you’re feeling insecure.
  2. Call in the Big Guns (support system, whoever is on the list.) I usually go Mom-Dad-Sister, depending on why I need to call. Sometimes I go Dad first, if it’s a school related stress, and Mom first if it’s a social thing. If I really need to break down, Mom is always first. If none of them are available or I’m still feeling meh, I text my two college friends, who I have a group chat with. They’re always quick to give a pep talk and ground me.
  3. Take a Walk. This could also be a trip to the gym, but I know some days when I’m feeling extra down and I don’t have time to hit the gym, a walk downtown or across campus will calm me down. Fresh air is good for the soul, especially when you aren’t sure you’re in the right place doing the right thing. In those moments, get some fresh air, calm yourself, and remember why you started.
  4. Write it out. Sometimes I will journal when I need to just let out whatever is holding me back. I use a pen, and literally write away the self-doubt. The self-doubt goes onto a piece of paper, and then into the trash (recycling bin). Other days I will write “you are good enough,” or “build your empire,” on a little post it and put it in front of me on my desk or in my planner. That way, even when I’m questioning myself, I’m also encouraging myself!

While each of these steps may seem like they’re not actually that helpful, I can assure you, they are more helpful than you would think. Sometimes calling on someone is best, other times spending a little time on your mental health is best. Other times, getting outside and gaining perspective is needed. And other times, you just have to make self-doubt a tangible item that can be discarded! Whatever you need, each of these offers something a bit different in combating self-doubt!

What’s your favorite way to get rid of self-doubt?

Truly,
Callie leigh

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December Daily Week 4

Hello, World.

Here is the final week of December Daily 2016! I’m always a bit sad when this project is over, but I also feel ready to move on. It’s hard to stay focused on December when the prospects of the new year are plastered everywhere.

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Note about the videos, I’m no YouTube magician, so the volume may need to be turned way up if you want to hear me explain each page (whether this week or previous weeks). But you can also just watch to see the pages, without my commentary!

If you missed previous weeks, click the week to watch: Week One, Week Two, Week Three.

Truly,
Callie leigh

Senior Spring… So Far

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Hello, World!

It’s the third week of my senior spring semester (AKA my LAST semester). I’m really loving my classes, though I am having a bit of trouble adjusting to my class schedule. All my classes are right in the middle of the day, which I’ve never had before. I’m also only taking three classes (insert the praising hand emoji). It’s a great semester so far. I have some of my favorite professors, and I really love each of my classes. But alas, as the chapter that is undergrad begins to close, the next chapter is still being written.

I’m in to law school, so I know I’m for sure going. I’m just not completely sure where yet. I haven’t heard back from all my schools, and I’m hesitant to make final decisions without having all offers in front of me. The fact that where I’ll be next year is still up in the air is slightly concerning (read: totally scary and stressful). I like having a plan, so it’s hard when my plans are not solidified. However, I’m going to an admitted students weekend at one of my schools on the east coast at the beginning of spring break and I’m so excited (read: ecstatic and stalking the school social media everyday).

Given that this is my last semester of college, I keep having a lot of nostalgia and thoughts. A lot of things have changed since my first year (THANKFULLY), but I also am thankful for everything and everyone that’s stayed consistent and by my side. I’m looking forward to soaking up the final months of my time at my college. I want to thoroughly enjoy my classes, succeed, and finish with a bang. I also want to really take advantage of being in the same place as my college friends. Some friends I can already feel distance with, and that makes me sad, but I’m hoping we can turn it around before we graduate, and spend some quality time together.

Here’s to the home stretch of undergrad!

Truly,
Callie leigh

Tea Talk: Visiting Home

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Hello, World.

As you know, Spring Break is this week, and tomorrow is Easter, meaning my break will soon be over. On Monday morning, I will be heading back to school to finish my final month of sophomore year. Knowing that I’m just about half way through my undergraduate experience is rather odd. Sometimes I feel like I’m at a standstill, watching the months go by as I wait for something bigger to happen. Maybe I’m trying to pause time so I can really enjoy my time at Saint Mary’s before I move on. I’m not sure, but what I do know is that coming home for breaks feels different than it did only a short year ago.

Last year I felt like I still had so much time ahead of me. Every time I came home I realized that I was so happy to be away at school, experiencing a new area and new people, and I still feel that way. However, there is now a sense of routine in coming home and going back to school. Neither experience is as thrilling or filled with new stories and events and people. I feel like I’m really figuring out who I am, which is why I think coming home feels different. Home is supposed to be where the heart is, right? I think there is truth in that because your family is at home, and a ton of memories, but I think this changes a bit when you leave and find happiness elsewhere.

I think something I’ve noticed is that I enjoy my family more when I feel secure with my life. Last year I was still getting to know all of my “college friends,” so I was always so eager to get back and continue getting to know them. And if I’m being honest, since I wasn’t single last year, I was eager to get back to someone in particular. But now that I’m secure with where I am and who is in my life, and now that I’m 100% confident that my friendships aren’t going to alter if I’m away from my friends for a few days, I thoroughly enjoy my time at home. I’m comfortable sitting on my couch with my dog, talking to my mom about life, watching Scandal or Vampire Diaries until 11pm, and just being. There is so much less stress when I’m home. I no longer come home and wish I could be back at school. Maybe this is a negative, but I think it’s more of having security. When you know that the people in your life aren’t going anywhere, it makes it easier to be completely present. No worrying about what might happen while you’re out of touch.

There are times when I feel like it’s been so long since I was in high school, living at home full time. Then there are other moments when I feel weird going back to school, weird about leaving my family. The habits you keep when you’re not living at home full time are even kind of funny. My family lost our puppy, Riley, at the beginning of this school year, but every time I enter the house from the garage, I pause, waiting for him to try to run out to greet us. It’s been seven months or so, and I still do it. I guess old habits really do die hard.

You might laugh, but you know that song by Miranda Lambert “The House That Built Me?” Pretty much my theme song when I’m homesick. Sometimes you just need to return to your roots, and get some quality time with the family to remember where you came from, and really evaluate where you’re going (and if it’s somewhere you want to go). As I’ve probably exhausted in previous posts, this semester is rather exhausting. It’s the first semester in my time at college where I’m not taking any “for pleasure” classes, and it’s the first semester where I feel really tired a majority of the time. Regardless, I think I’ll be recharged when I return come Monday because spending time with my family allows me to rest, reflect, plan, and reminds me of my goals. I know some people aren’t freakishly linked to their family, and they don’t NEED their family to feel secure and happy. I, however, need my family. I love spending time with them because they’re crazy, and they talk over each other, and they make the funniest jokes, and they love me unconditionally every day, and when they say they’re proud of me I’m reminded that seemingly mediocre semesters have purpose.

I love coming home, and I wish I would have cherished my trips home last year. It’s important to be mentally and physically present when you’re spending time with the people that will always love you. I’m not trying to be preachy, but I’m just saying that when you’re in college, or living away from your hometown, remember to love the time you spend at home or with your family. As for me, I’m going to continue drinking my cup of tea, re-watching season 2 of Scandal, and skimming The New York Times. Did I forget to mention time at home is great for multitasking? Doing all the things you don’t have time to do while at school or work?

Truly,
Callie leigh

Chunky Necklaces and Sperry Topsiders

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Hello, World.

On Saturday some friends and I went shopping because we really needed some retail therapy. Life lately is insane, and most people feel super stressed about so many different things. Going shopping was a nice stress reliever because it let everyone just talk, look at clothes, and hangout without any school pressure. Since we were in my roommates hometown, we stopped by one of the major wineries because she is always talking about how beautiful it is. I really like living in the Bay Area because there are so many different, awesome places to explore all the time. I also am enjoying getting to know more people, and forming friendships with great people. Sophomore year of college is going by too quickly, but it’s been a great year on a lot of levels, and I know that my junior year is going to be even better, if not the best year yet.

I know I’ve posted a lot of outfit photos with my navy vest, but it’s seriously one of the best pieces of clothing in my closet right now. I love it so much, and it’s the perfect article of clothing for slightly chilly yet still warm days. I’m going to be really sad when it starts getting too warm to wear a vest, but I’m also excited to start wearing shorts and sandals. Summer outfits feel much easier to put together, but alas, fall or winter outfits will always be my favorite. ImageImageImageImage
Speaking of the fact that spring is coming, lately I keep thinking about where I was just a short year ago. My life was so different, the relationships in my life in much different places, and my hopes for summer and other things so much different. Things have changed so much, but its definitely for the best. I’m so happy, and things are really working out for me lately, which makes life so much easier. When years begin with a lot of hardship, sometimes it’s hard to see how it can get better, but if you just hold your head up, and keep pushing through, karma will reward you.
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I’m really enjoying where I currently I am, and although I’ve struggled with my major this year, my life plan, and my personal relationships, I feel like I’m figuring out who I want to be when this whole college thing is said and done. Hard work pays off, so every time I begin to question myself, I remind myself to keep pushing forward. I have so many goals, and I love all the things I’m currently involved in, so I just need to keep going after what I want. Also, I’m happy with who is in my life right now because for the first time in a long time, I feel like the people I surround myself with are 100% genuine.
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wearing- Vest: J Crew // sweater: LC Lauren Conrad // necklace: Poison Apple Salon, Chico // Jeans: Lucky Brand Charlie fit // sunnies: Kate Spade 
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Truly,
Callie Leigh

Tune Diaries: April

Hello, World.

Today is April 3rd, and I’m having trouble believing it because that means I’m done with my second year of college in less than two months. Yikes. People always tell me that college goes by even faster than high school, but I try to ignore them because I love where I am, and I’m not ready to move on anytime soon. Anyway, last week was midterms (brutal), and I have to finish this week, and get through next week before I can go home for Easter break. A lot of things are working out for me right now, and I feel so incredibly blessed, and cannot wait to see my family! My sister also just purchased her first home, so I’m very excited to see it when I go home. I love her dearly, and I couldn’t be happier for her! Also, she has the cutest puppy ever so I’m can’t wait to see her. I have a good feeling this month because I just got my first job, summer is near, the weather is (theoretically) warming up, and my friendships are stronger than ever. I hope you enjoy my playlist, and I hope you’re having a great start to April.
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Listen HERE. Enjoy today because it’ll be over before you know it!

Truly,
Callie Leigh

Mint & Dots

Hello, World.

Today is my “homework until I die” day. I have two papers due this upcoming week, and a ton reading, and interviews, and life. It’s a little hectic to say the least, but I feel productive. Although, I definitely need to do laundry today. Our dryer hasn’t worked the last week in my residence hall, so I haven’t been able to do laundry, but I’m hoping to make the trek to someone else’s hall to get my laundry done because I’m getting low on essentials. Anyway, Andee and I went to a great brunch today, and took some photos, so I thought I would share!
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wearing- top: J Crew // cardigan: J Crew Factory // jeans: Lucky Brand // necklace: Francesca’s ImageImageAndee’s wearing- basically all Francesca’s :)

What are your plans today?

Truly,
Callie Leigh

 

Valentine’s Day Girl’s Night

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Hello, World.

Valentine’s Day is on Friday, and I know that a lot of people kind of despise this holiday if they are single, and feeling a significant lack of love in their life. But fear not, I have a plan for your night that is equally as fun, and may even be a little better. A girl’s night! Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to mean showing your love for s significant other, it can mean getting your best girl friends together, hanging out, doing girly things, and celebrating the idea of true love. Sounds cheesy? Maybe, but I think it’s cheesy enough to work.

We don’t have to have someone significant in our lives all the time, and it’s sad that there is one day a year that makes us believe otherwise. I think sometimes we need to realize we’re still young, and we’ll find Mr. Right one day, and then we can spend Valentine’s Day doing the “romantic thing.” Until then, though, have fun with your best friends! If you’ve ever seen Sex and the City you know the importance of true friends, so why not take a day to appreciate your close friends?

A few ideas about what to do for your girl’s night? Go to your local grocery store, stock up on candy, popcorn, and the beverage of your choice, and have a romantic comedy movie night. Make a trip to Target and pick up some new nail polishes and give each other manicures as you talk about school or work or watch a good TV show. Or, if your schedules work better for a morning celebration, go grab donuts and coffee, or brunch at a fancy restaurant. It’s always important to love yourself, so take a day to treat yourself, and hangout with your friends!

What’s your favorite “just for me” treat?

Truly,
Callie Leigh

Photo c/o Pinterest!

Meet Me in the City

Hello, World.

Jan Term is almost over, and I couldn’t be more sad about it! This month has gone by so quickly, and this week is crazy busy. I have a 10-page paper due Friday by noon, a Resident Advisor application to complete, an Orientation Leader application to also complete, three review boards, and you know, a life to maintain. So I’m starting to go insane, but I wanted to share some photos from a trip to the City last weekend! I love the City, and I love days with my friends where I’m not utterly stressed out even more. During this trip I had my first macaroon, saw the Painted Ladies, and got sushi (which is always a great thing). I like to explore new places or things every time I get to go to SF, so I’m really happy it was a successful day!
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Wearing: blazer: Nordstrom (old) // shirt: Lucky Brand (similar) // jeans: Lucky Brand // Boots: Miss Mooz (old) 

Have a great Tuesday! I have to get back to revising that paper I was talking about.

Truly,
Callie Leigh

Cabin Time and an Announcement.

Hello, World.

For the last few days I’ve been at my cabin, drinking coffee bundled in oversized sweaters, cuddled on the couch while watching Scandal. It was relaxing, and I appreciate those moments with my family so much. There wasn’t much snow on the ground, unfortunately, and I sure hope that it starts snowing like crazy between now and the end of march or so. I love cold weather, but it’s a little late this year. Anyway, I have an announcement. I’ve decided to change this blog’s URL to bottledcreativityblog.wordpress.com from callieleighcoker.wordpress.com. I did this because this blog is entitled, Bottled Creativity, and I wanted it to be easier to find. I also didn’t want my name as a URL. When I originally chose to start a blog, I didn’t mean to make the URL my name, but I just never could figure out how to change it. So, after some research, I figured it out, and changed it. It’s changed on all my social media, but fear not if you have my old link saved or bookmarked (as I know my mom does). Now whenever you click or type callieleighcoker.wordpress.com into your search engine, you will automatically be redirected to this URL without having to do anything, and all the old posts are still accessible. This was more of a personal, cosmetic change and I hope it doesn’t cause too much confusion, but if it does please email me here. So now that I’ve explained that, on to an outfit post!
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ImageThe other announcement I had is that in most of my posts, if I feature or list an item, some of the words are now clickable, and will transfer you to the website I purchased them from or found them on. For example, in this post if you click “Lucky Brand” you will be redirected to the page with this pair of jeans. Some of you may found this already, but I just wanted to comment on it in case it is hard to tell because the links are colored. Hope you’re having a fabulous Thursday! I’m going to dinner at my favorite local eatery tonight.

Truly,
Callie leigh