The other day, I was reading one of my favorite blogs, The College Prepster, and came across this post. While I was reading it, I couldn’t help but relate to everything Carly was saying. I’ve sat in coffee shops, and witnessed the brutality involved in being an eleven-year-old girl, but I’ve also been on a college campus, and watched the same pettiness occur between girls. I’m no angel, and I fully admit to playing into this idea of trying to people please, trying to remain strong even when others are rude, and even saying things that aren’t the nicest. I think if we’re being honest with ourselves, we’ve all been in one of these positions, if not both. I could do a post regarding misconceptions about college, but I figured one of the misconceptions I see ties in nicely to this post, and that is the idea that as soon as you get to college, everyone is suddenly mature, and sit around singing Kumbaya together. Unfortunately, this is not the case. Girls are just as bad, they’re just as petty, and they can be just as crazy. Let’s be realistic about this… if you’ve seen the Real Housewives of (fill in the blank here), then you know just how untrue it is that all girls get less dramatic as they mature.
What I do know is this: once you stop letting the small things get to you, and once you figure out who you want to be, drama doesn’t affect you nearly as much. I think it’s the caring aspect that allows drama to form, grow, and cause issues. Carly made some really great points in her post, and I liked that she said she’s been feeling down on herself lately because I can completely relate. We still have the same insecurities and uncertainties we had when we were eleven, the problems have just matured a teeny bit.
I’m one of those people who really hates when people don’t like me. Yes, I am a total people pleaser when it comes to this. There are times when the feeling is mutual, and there are other times when it only becomes mutual because mutual dislike is the only option left. College is interesting because it challenges people in so many ways, and personally, my biggest challenge is accepting not everyone is going to like me, sometimes for reasons out of my control. But I think it’s important to focus on yourself, and if you like who you are, and like where you’re going, then the other people just aren’t important. Some people thrive on drama, and they create it from nothing because it’s something to do. My challenge for you is to just let it roll off your back, let it go, and don’t let it dim your shine!
Your own worst critic is yourself, so don’t let the negative voices inside your head, or you’ll just end up being even harder on yourself when you really don’t need to be! Remember the importance of self-love, remember the importance of happiness, and remember that we can’t please everyone! One of my favorite quotes of all-time goes something like, “The people who matter won’t care, and the people who care don’t matter,” and I seriously can’t tell you how much I agree with this. If people are going to watch your every move, judge you for things that are so minuscule in the grand scheme of things that it couldn’t even be located with a microscope, or keep a non-existent feud going, just ignore them. They only matter right now because you give them the power to matter, and they won’t matter the minute you say, “I don’t care,” and mean it. You can be whatever you’d like to be in this world, but if you listen to the voices that tell you that you can’t, then you may never reach your potential. So, again, don’t let it get you down. At the end of the day, the people putting energy into hating you will care way more about what you do than you care about them!